Victim to Survivor to ThriverVictim to Survivor to Thriver

Truth That Hurts......

From Victim to Survivor to Thriver

Victim	Survivor	Thriver
Doesn’t deserve nice things or trying for the "good life."	Struggling for reasons & chance to heal	Gratitude for everything in life.
Low self esteem/shame/unworthy	Sees self as wounded & healing	Sees self as an overflowing miracle
Hyper vigilant	Using tools to learn to relax	Gratitude for new life
Alone	Seeking help	Oneness
Feels Selfish	Deserves to seek help	Proud of Healthy Self caring
Damaged	Naming what happened	Was wounded & now healing
Confusion & numbness	Learning to grieve, grieving past aggrieved trauma	Grieving at current losses
Overwhelmed by past	Naming & grieving what happened	Living in the present
Hopeless	Hopeful	Faith in self & life
Uses outer world to hide from self	Stays with emotional pain	Understands that emotional pain will pass & brings new insights
Hides their story	Not afraid to tell their story tosafe people.	Beyond telling their story, but always aware they have created their own healing with HP
Believes everyone else is better, stronger, less damaged	Comes out of hiding to hear others & have compassion for them & eventually self	Lives with an open heart for self & others
Often wounded by unsafe others	Learning how to protect self by share, check, share	Protects self from unsafe others
Places own needs last	Learning healthy needs (See Healing the Child Within & Gift to Myself)	Places self first realizing that is the only way to function & eventually help others
Creates one drama after another	See patterns	Creates peace
Believes suffering is the human condition	Feeling some relief, knows they need to continue in recovery	Finds joy in peace
Serious all the time	Beginning to laugh	Seeing the humour in life
Uses inappropriate humour, including teasing	Feels associated painful feelings instead	Uses healthy humour
Uncomfortable, numb or angry around toxic people	Increasing awareness of pain & dynamics	Healthy boundaries around toxic people, incl. relatives
Lives in the past	Aware of patterns	Lives in the Now
Angry at religion	Understanding the difference between religion & personal spirituality	Enjoys personal relationship with the God of their understanding
Suspicious of therapists-- projects	Sees therapist as guide during projections	Sees reality as their projection & owns it.
Needs people & chemicals to believe they are all right	Glimpses of self-acceptance & fun without others	Feels authentic & connected, Whole
"Depression"	Movement of feelings	Aliveness

 c/o Toni L.Vossen 2012

"Mary Kay Truth About Abuse Survey" 2012 Regional Findings

Truth That Hurts......

  c/o Toni L.Vossen 2010

Truth That Hurts....

Earlier this month, I told you about Deena. She was broken and seemed almost beyond help when she first came into our partner's care. She was a runaway ... physically, sexually, and psychologically tortured ... pimped out by a gang ... branded with gang tattoos.  I told you how she steadily gained ground with loving care. In just under one year she has made amazing progress in life skills and healthy relationships, schoolwork, and a developing spiritual life...  Read more about Deena's story. Deena happens to be an American girl being cared for in a home that Shared Hope supports.  The story of her sexual abuse is not confined to America---it is worldwide.   But so is the story of her recovery! We have learned much over the years of working with our precious partners abroad to implement amazing programs of rescue and restoration.   Some of my staff will be in India and Nepal this month reconnecting with the partners still with us from the earliest days of Shared Hope, seeing women that we met as victims many years ago--now serving as leaders in these organizations!  Isn't it satisfying to know that together you and  Shared Hope have helped restore so many lives that seemed to be, like Deena's, hopeless cases? Deena's progress...and Ganga's and Shanti's...are all cause for celebration---but they also underscore the great need for more refuges of healing. Right now, Shared Hope is focused on making that happen in the U.S. in the following ways: We are investing in service providers that stand in the gap today. We are building a foundation for a broader service provider network.  We are helping states improve laws that impact child sex slavery, particularly victim services. You have an extraordinary opportunity to participate personally, through a remarkable "Restoration Matching Challenge" offered by an individual who has confidence in Shared Hope's leadership to advance restoration services for trafficked victims. Any gift given will be matched dollar-for-dollar, up to a total of $75,000, through our Restoration Matching Challenge. So please give generously today!  Linda Smith Founder and President of Shared Hope International

  

.. c/o Toni L.Vossen 2010

Into The Heart of Truth: Adults still suffer.....

Into The Heart of Truth: Adults still suffer.....: Truth That Hurts......

Truth That Hurts......



c/o Toni L.Vossen 2010